If you've found yourself here on Common Sense Today you're either really lost or you want a nice refreshing dose of common sense. In the hustle and bustle of today's upside down world I invite you to follow me as we go through almost any topic under the sun or even past it. Sometimes we'll get a warm fuzzy from the topic, hopefully you'll get a laugh or two (everyone needs to laugh), and I'm sure at some point I'll poke a nerve and you'll let me know about it! Join me, Connor S. Todd, for a dose of common sense.
Just to show you I plan on covering all topics, I'll start the first post with a doosy. I'm going to cover RESPECT. I'll use this introduction to let you 'dip your toe in the water' regarding how I'll start off handling topics. Fortunately, respect is a topic that should hit close to home for all of us. Many feel disrespected in their lives, jobs, sports, etc, and it stings, bad. Sometimes it's different cultures and walks of life clashing, and sometimes it's genuine disrespect.
"Sometimes people use 'respect' to mean treating a person like a person, and sometimes they use 'respect' to mean treating someone like an authority. Sometimes people who are used to being treated as an authority say 'if you won't respect me I won't respect you', and they mean 'if you won't treat me like an authority I won't treat you like a person."
I don't remember where I read this but it rings just a little too true. Sometimes a boss, manager, whomever just doesn't realize they're being a prick about how they view respect. It's remarkable how many people view respect as this 'end all be all' for whenever they're in a management position. Unfortunately I've known too many people who if you didn't treat them with what they deemed to be the appropriate respect, they'd make your life miserable.
Sometimes it boils down to the most basic of insecurities. They feel threatened by intelligence (I know, scary thought right?). Many of those I've seen who don't view respect as a mutually earned relationship are either not the sharpest crayon in the box or are willingly ignorant. The dictionary gives the definition for ignorant: "lacking knowledge or awareness in general; uneducated or unsophisticated." If someone is uneducated but willing to learn, they're likely not the jerk you've come across, because generally someone willing to learn is sitting their attempting to soak up other peoples knowledge like a sponge. A person who is willingly ignorant.... stay away.
The phrase 'knowledge is power' is all over the world for a reason. To have knowledge and apply it is to gain wisdom. It keeps you from ignorance and making a fool of yourself. To deal with those who lack a basic definition of respect, it's best to determine if they are just lacking the cultural knowledge, ignorant (unwillingly), purposefully applying a distorted sense of respect (you didn't treat me as authority so you're not a person), or willingly ignorant. A person who is of different culture or ignorant not of their own accord can be reasoned with. Do your best to just stay clear of the latter two unless you either want a headache, shouting match, or both.
In a simple recap that you might want to just screenshot and show that special someone who doesn't understand mutual respect between adults (or just humans). Treat others how you would want to be treated. If you're in a position of authority, don't abuse it. Be a leader, not a boss. If you're under a position of authority, treat them as such. If they're a prick, maybe it's time to move on.
That may actually be a good topic for next time. How millennials (myself included) show record low loyalty to jobs and are likely to move on. Now before you think I'm some snowflake out here, trust me I'm going to whale on every generation from the ones doing all the political shenaniganry to the tide pod eaters that don't remember a time without a smart phone.
That wraps up today's soap box of a first post. I hope you enjoyed it, and make sure to let those you know who either need a little common senses or a spirit lift about this blog. I'll hopefully get to all different topics, but if there's something you want me to touch on please contact me and I'll do my best to have at it! I'll see you next time, and remember. Make Common Sense Today common today!